is a pioneering advocate for Pathological Demand Avoidance (PDA), offering trauma-informed, non judgmental, affirming education & support for individuals, parents and carers.
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I was once the misunderstood, unsupported young person with unresourced family, educators and professionals.
At 15, I left the education system entirely, after years of âschool canâtâ, and found myself seeking belonging in all the places I found my teen neurokin from similar backgrounds: the juvenile court system, homeless and preparing myself to become a parent at the age of 18. Poor mental health, hopelessness and total isolation in my earlier years threatened to defeat my resolve to find a way to live differently, and to understand myself.Â
I was able to turn my life around BECAUSE I am a PDA autistic with ADHD and CPTSD, and never despite it.
I share many of the experiences families share with me, thinking theyâre alone.Â
With 26 years experience parenting my own neurodivergent children, all four of them PDAers among other varying forms of neurodivergence, there isnât an experience I havenât traversed myself, or as a parent, family member or professionally.
Youâre not alone. Youâre not causing your childâs challenges. Your child is not broken and neither are you. You are not weak, too submissive, or enabling your child. You are not causing learned helplessness and I know youâve heard this many times before.Â
You and I both know you have done all you know to do. You have researched, reached out, been firmer, been softer, tried all the approaches available to you, and in amongst it all youâre suffered. And I mean, suffered.Â
I know itâs lonely, itâs isolating and the hardship of navigating a world that doesnât know better, is utterly exhausting.Â
By my twenties, after many years of adversity, I entered university and started carving a pathway to the life I needed to live by design. I didnât know it at the time, but the inherent wisdom that PDA offers me lit the pathway.Â
We are passionate about RADICAL ACCEPTANCE & the celebration of neurodivergence. We work toward social change that is built on a foundation of inclusion, equity & support.
Our practice is FAMILY centred, with an emphasis on the need for the entire family to have their individual needs met in order to THRIVE.
We are LGBTQIA+ embracing & we understand that culture, race, disability, neurotype & gender diversity all contribute to a rich & thriving society when all of our luminous qualities & values are UNDERSTOOD, and embraced.Â
Looking for a freebie?
Many parents email in and ask what schooling from home might look like. Is it overwhelming? Is it something that only someone qualified can do?
Kristy sheds light on what education at home can look like, along with images and video from her own experience as a home educating parent of a PDA young person.
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"I would like like you to know that your courses have brought my family so much more peace and happiness. Every single member of my family is neurodivergent and we struggled to pretend to be 'normal' for a very long time, instead of accepting our true selves and doing what works for us best. When my mum took your courses it really changed her views and brought her and I so much closer together. I used to be embarrassed and ashamed of my autism and ADHD but I do not carry that shame anymore. I am proud of who I am, and I know that at home I am completely safe and supported. I think your work is so important in changing the narrative about autistics and their families. Thank you for all you have done and continue to do for our community!"