inTune Pathways
The PDA & Relational Safety Library
Self-paced learning for PDA families & the professionals who support them.
A complete library of Kristy's masterclasses - organised so you can find the right support for where you are right now. Each class challenges the behaviourist lens and offers a nervous system first, relationally safe way forward.
Explore by category below.
Where are you right now?
There’s no wrong door. Choose what feels closest to where you are today, and we’ll point you to the right part of the library.
I'm new to PDA
Everything feels impossible and you don't know where to start.
I'm in crisis
Meltdowns, safety, or a child in deep distress right now.
School isn't working
Refusal, IEPs, classroom struggles, or learning at home.
I need to reduce demands
Daily life, food, screens, hygiene, everyday care.
I want to change how I respond
Unlearning control and parenting through connection.
I'm a professional
Educators, clinicians and allied health learning.
Browse the library
Eight categories, from first steps to deeper repair. Jump to what you need:
PDA Foundations
Start here. What PDA actually is, and the lens shift that changes everything.
inTune with PDA
Her flagship framework for understanding and supporting your PDA child.
Understanding PDA: Pathological Demand Avoidance
A clear, grounding introduction to what PDA actually is.
What the HELL is PDA?!
A plain-spoken, no-jargon entry point for overwhelmed parents.
A Closer Look at Autism, Anxiety and Demand Avoidance
How autism, anxiety and demand avoidance weave together.
Control vs Equity: Understanding PDA and the Illusion of Control-Seeking
Why control-seeking is really a nervous system seeking safety.
Autism & Anxiety: Helping our Children to Thrive
Helping anxious autistic children move from surviving to thriving.
To Label, or Not to Label
Thinking through whether and how to name your child's neurodivergence.
Should I Tell My Child They're Neurodivergent?
A gentle guide to telling your child about who they are.
Autism and Sensory Processing
How sensory processing shapes everyday experience and behaviour.
Reducing Demands
Practical, everyday support for lowering the demand load at home.
Tools for Thriving in Everyday Life with PDA
Practical everyday tools for living well with PDA.
Food, Eating and Demand Avoidance in Children
Understanding food refusal and eating through a demand-avoidance lens.
Everyday Care Tasks for PDAers: Toileting
Compassionate, low-demand support around toileting.
Everyday Care Tasks for PDAers: Bathing
Compassionate, low-demand support around bathing and hygiene.
Reframing Screen Time via an Autistic Cultural Lens
Reframing screen time as autistic culture, not a problem to fix.
Autistic Interests and Passions: PDA and Non-PDA Perspectives
Honouring autistic interests and passions as vital, not optional.
School / Education
Navigating school, learning at home, and the classroom.
Developing an IEP for the Demand Avoidant Child at School
Building an IEP that actually fits a demand-avoidant child.
Preparing our Autistic Children for School
Preparing autistic children for school with less distress.
How to Engage Demand Avoidant Children with Learning at Home
Engaging learning at home when school isn't an option.
Autism, Anxiety & PDA in the Classroom
Supporting anxious, demand-avoidant children in the classroom.
Autism, Masking & Pathologising (In the Classroom)
How masking and pathologising harm autistic students.
Parent Nervous System
Your nervous system matters too — regulation, burnout and wellbeing.
Fight, Flight, Freeze and Fawn: The Threat Response in Demand Avoidant Children
Understanding the threat responses beneath your child's behaviour.
PDA and Mental and Physical Wellbeing
Caring for mental and physical wellbeing with PDA.
Understanding the Process of PDA Burnout
Recognising and moving through the stages of PDA burnout.
Emotional Regulation: Tools and Strategies for PDA Individuals
Co-regulation and nervous-system-first regulation tools.
Unlearning Power-Over Parenting
Moving from control toward connection, equity and repair.
Parenting PDA Children: Building Connection Over Control
Parenting through connection and equity rather than control.
Healing (from) the Trauma We Unintentionally Project onto our Autistic Children
Healing the trauma we can pass to our children without meaning to.
Parenting Demand Avoidant Children in Isolation (Single / Solo Parents)
Support for single, solo and going-it-alone parents.
Managing Stress & Meltdowns
Working with stress and meltdowns without escalating harm.
Crisis Support
For the hardest moments — meltdowns, safety, and recovery.
Understanding and Responding to Meltdowns in Demand Avoidant, Highly Anxious Children
Understanding what meltdowns are, and how to respond.
Longing for Home: Understanding Suicidality in Autistic Youth
A tender, vital guide to suicidality in autistic youth.
Critical Care & Recovery
Deep support for families in crisis and recovery.
Professional Learning
For educators, clinicians and allied health professionals.
Decoding PDA: A Comprehensive Introduction for Educators
A thorough PDA grounding for educators.
1:1 Supervision for Professionals
One-to-one professional supervision and reflective support.
Autistic Communication: Comparing PDA and Non-PDA Experiences
Comparing PDA and non-PDA autistic communication.
Autistic Social Connection: PDA vs Non-PDA Experiences
Comparing PDA and non-PDA experiences of social connection.
Sensory Processing in Autism: PDA and Non-PDA Perspectives
Comparing PDA and non-PDA sensory processing.
Routines and Control: PDA and Non-PDA Approaches to Autonomy
How PDA and non-PDA autistic people relate to routine and autonomy.
Repair and Relational Safety
Communication, connection, and rebuilding trust through safety.
Relational Trauma and PDA: Healing Through Connection
How relational trauma forms, and how connection heals it.
Understanding and Using Declarative Language with PDA Children
Using declarative language without hidden demands.
Communicating Safety to the Demand Avoidant, Anxious Brain
Communicating felt safety to an anxious, demand-avoidant brain.
Reframing Language, Communication & Connection for Anxious, Demand Avoidant Children
Reframing how we language connection with anxious children.
How to Talk to Demand Avoidant Children (Respectful, Collaborative Ways)
Respectful, collaborative ways to talk with demand-avoidant children.
Building Bridges: Communication Between Autistic Youth and Caregivers
Strengthening communication between autistic youth and carers.
Supporting Neurodivergent Children to Stay Safe in Relationships
Helping neurodivergent children stay safe in relationships.
The Power of Play: Therapeutic Play Strategies for PDA Autistic Children
Therapeutic play as a path to connection and regulation.
Navigating Social Dynamics
Supporting autistic young people through social dynamics.
Partnering with PDA: Navigating Intimate Relationships
Navigating intimate adult relationships in collaboration with PDA.
Understanding PDA in Adults: Lived Experience, Nervous System & Everyday Life
Lived experience, nervous system and everyday adult PDA life.
Bundles & save
Want more than one? These bundles group related masterclasses together at around 20% less than buying them separately — a gentler way in when you know you need a cluster of support.
6 masterclasses
Foundations Bundle
The whole grounding in one place — autism, neurodivergence and PDA. For anyone wanting the lens shift before anything else.
Includes:
- Understanding PDA
- A Closer Look at Autism, Anxiety & Demand Avoidance
- Control vs Equity
- Autism & Anxiety: Helping our Children to Thrive
- Should I Tell My Child They're Neurodivergent?
- Autism and Sensory Processing
$299 $390 save 20%
4 masterclasses
Reducing Demands Bundle
Practical, everyday support for lowering the demand load at home — food, hygiene, screens and care tasks.
Includes:
- Food, Eating & Demand Avoidance
- Everyday Care Tasks: Toileting
- Everyday Care Tasks: Bathing
- Reframing Screen Time
$199 $260 save 20%
4 masterclasses
Unlearning Power-Over Parenting Bundle
For the deeper work of moving from control toward connection, equity and repair.
Includes:
- Parenting PDA Children: Connection Over Control
- Healing the Trauma We Project onto our Children
- Parenting Demand Avoidant Children in Isolation
- Managing Stress & Meltdowns
$199 $260 save 20%
Not sure where to begin?
If everything feels impossible right now, start with PDA Foundations. The lens shift comes first — everything else builds from there.
The work remains visible. The right people find their way.
