Reflections

Some of the most confusing moments in my parenting have come when I’ve been sitting across from a teacher, therapist or another adult who tells me my child is doing really well.

They’re participating. They’re smiling...

Families like mine are watched closely.

How we eat, sleep, learn, wash, leave the house, spend time together and speak to one another is often measured against a very particular idea of what family life should look l...

There have been many times in our family where life felt so hard and stayed feeling so hard for much longer than I expected it to.

I would spend weeks thinking that once we got through a particular thing, once everyo...

For years I thought good parenting meant staying calm on the outside no matter what I was carrying underneath.

I got that from everywhere. Hold it together. Don't let them see you rattled. Be the steady one. And I tr...

This piece was first published on Kristy's Substack. Shared here so it's easier to find.

"A child gives one word, and the adult wants a paragraph. A teenager shares one feeling, and the parent asks five questions. T...