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I have not yet rebuilt. autism autistic health pathological demand avoidance pda radical acceptance Sep 22, 2023

Hello, I’m here writing. It isn’t easy, and it isn’t complete.

Be patient with me, please, as I figure out a way to communicate this internalised experience, these thousands of thoughts, these physical movements that come along with those things and the way in which I "say" it...

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Yesterday, someone trolled me on social media. autism autistic boundaries language pda trauma Aug 02, 2023

Yesterday, someone trolled me on social media.

That in itself isn’t the thing. That happens to autistic folks who joyfully resist the disorder narrative all the time.

It’s threatening to some, to read my writings or hear me speak about my autistic pride.

I was speaking about how so...

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I’ll never ‘overcome’ my PDA neurobiology. behaviours parenting pathalogical demand avoidance pda radical acceptance Aug 13, 2021
I’m often asked how, as a PDAer, I am able to overcome my need for control in parenting my own children with a PDA profile of autism.
 
I don’t overcome it.
 
I’ll never ‘overcome’ my neurobiology.
 
It is central to my being and doing.
 
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I remember every single name, every single humiliation. adhd autism identity parenting pda trauma Aug 13, 2021

At fifteen years old, I left school midway through Year Nine and went into the workforce.

 

I vehemently expressed that I would not return to school and with that, my mother said if I was not returning, I needed to get a job.

 

I worked in the local bakery, something I was so proud of....

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This is how I live most of my life now. autism pathalogical demand avoidance pda Aug 13, 2021
Today I put aside a few hours to revisit my plan for thriving autistically.
 
Those drop-offs of the very things that support my wellbeing happen so subtly and quickly as time goes on that I don’t even notice.
 
I told myself (mentally noted) how much I miss my early morning...
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My PDA neurobiology. adhd anxiety behaviours pathalogical demand avoidance pda radical acceptance Jul 29, 2021
I'm up at 5am this morning.
 
I have an appointment in the city and it's at a new address I haven't been to before.
 
This means that I get up early, google the address over coffee to check out some images of the building and its surroundings, places to park and how long it takes...
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Food, glorious food! anxiety parenting pathalogical demand avoidance pda Jun 04, 2021

Trigger Warning: Mentions food, eating disorders and sensory aversions.

Please note the below is my personal experience and I am not a qualified medical professional or dietician.

 

Food. Glorious food.

Let’s talk about it.

 

In our family, we’ve had a variety of...

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My disability is my most sacred ally. language masking pda radical acceptance May 06, 2021
So much of my anger, resentment and self-loathing as a young person came from the pressure I felt to mask.
 
Masking is both something I, as an autistic person partake in as a choice at times to get to where I want to be in life (e.g. jumping through hoops to get into courses or job...
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What I've learned as a PDAer... commuincation neurodivergent pda Mar 11, 2021
If you've seen any of my instastories over at instagram.com/_kristyforbes; if you're in our inTune Access Support: Family Collective membership then you'll be quite accustomed to seeing me in my pyjamas with my hair all over the place.
 
Some of my best work is done in my pyjamas,...
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