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Reflections

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I Stopped Explaining What's Next and I Started Shrinking the Unknown

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When my child asks "how long?" five times in a row, they're not being annoying or trying to rage bait me. Their nervous system loses its grip on time the moment it feels under threat. The question ...

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The Unfurling

This piece was first published on Kristy's Substack. Shared here so it's easier to find.


"A child gives one word, and the adult wants a paragraph. A teenager shares one feeling, and the parent as...

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I Stopped Pulling Them Out of Their World and I Started Stepping Into It

imagination parenting pda play May 31, 2026

Imagination isn't a problem. IĀ really want to say that upfront because for so many PDA kids, imagination is how they stay connected to the world, not how they escape it. Role play, characters, other r...

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I have not yet rebuilt.

Hello, I’m here writing. It isn’t easy, and it isn’t complete.

Be patient with me, please, as I figure out a way to communicate this internalised experience, these thousands of thoughts, these physic...

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Yesterday, someone trolled me on social media.

 

Yesterday, someone trolled me on social media.

That in itself isn’t the thing. That happens to autistic folks who joyfully resist the disorder narrative all the time.

It’s threatening to some, to re...

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I’ll never ā€˜overcome’ my PDA neurobiology.

I’m often asked how, as a PDAer, I am able to overcome my need for control in parenting my own children with a PDA profile of autism.
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I don’t overcome it.
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I’ll never ā€˜overcome’ my ne
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I remember every single name, every single humiliation.

At fifteen years old, I left school midway through Year Nine and went into the workforce.

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I vehemently expressed that I would not return to school and with that, my mother said if I was not return...

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This is how I live most of my life now.

Today I put aside a few hours to revisit my plan for thriving autistically.
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Those drop-offs of the very things that support my wellbeing happen so subtly and quickly as time goes on that I d
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My PDA neurobiology.

I'm up at 5am this morning.
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I have an appointment in the city and it's at a new address I haven't been to before.
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This means that I get up early, google the address over coffee to ch
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Food, glorious food!

Trigger Warning: Mentions food, eating disorders and sensory aversions.

Please note the below is my personal experience and I am not a qualified medical professional or dietician.

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Food. Glorious ...

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