Reflections

I will not wait until I’m in my last days. autism autistic autonomy health identity joy mental health radical acceptance Oct 03, 2023

So many people unconsciously spend (waste) their lives working toward what they hope will be peace, one day.

Work hard, then rest.

Main meal first, then dessert.

Wees first, then poos. (I made that one up because order hurts my PDA autistic ADHD brain).

We’ve been taught to abandon our...

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I have not yet rebuilt. autism autistic health pathological demand avoidance pda radical acceptance Sep 22, 2023

Hello, I’m here writing. It isn’t easy, and it isn’t complete.

Be patient with me, please, as I figure out a way to communicate this internalised experience, these thousands of thoughts, these physical movements that come along with those things and the way in which I "say" it...

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I’ll never ‘overcome’ my PDA neurobiology. behaviours parenting pathalogical demand avoidance pda radical acceptance Aug 13, 2021

I’m often asked how, as a PDAer, I am able to overcome my need for control in parenting my own children with a PDA profile of autism.

I don’t overcome it.

I’ll never ‘overcome’ my neurobiology.

It is central to my being and doing.

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My PDA neurobiology. adhd anxiety behaviours pathalogical demand avoidance pda radical acceptance Jul 29, 2021

I'm up at 5am this morning.

I have an appointment in the city and it's at a new address I haven't been to before.

This means that I get up early, google the address over coffee to check out some images of the building and its surroundings, places to park and how long it takes...

Reclaiming the word "autistic." autism language neurodivergent radical acceptance May 13, 2021

A great beginning point when becoming a friend and ally to the autistic community is to use the term "autistic" rather than ASD.

I see the abbreviation ASD and my skin crawls.

Autism Spectrum Disorder.

Disorder.

"My ASD kiddo" equates to "My autism...

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My disability is my most sacred ally. language masking pda radical acceptance May 06, 2021

So much of my anger, resentment and self-loathing as a young person came from the pressure I felt to mask.

Masking is both something I, as an autistic person partake in as a choice at times to get to where I want to be in life (e.g. jumping through hoops to get into courses or job...

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This is a difficult time. Let's acknowledge that. autism boundaries neurodivergent radical acceptance Apr 08, 2021

Immerse yourself in communities, places and with people who feel right for you.

A group or page isn't necessarily safe or right because someone else says so.

You get to choose.

Last night I jumped on to have a look around at what some of my neurokin were writing and sharing,...

Awareness month? Nah, not over here. autism language neurodivergent parenting radical acceptance resilience Apr 01, 2021

This morning I'm reminded of an appointment with an obstetrician in the public system seven years ago.

I was heavily pregnant with my last baby.

He was going over my subsequent pregnancies and deliveries and stopped upon something in the notes that was apparently worth dropping...

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Let's discuss: "Living with autism." autism language neurodivergent radical acceptance Mar 18, 2021

I'd like to encourage individuals, professionals seeking out education to be better allies, and families of neurodivergent individuals to be cautious when engaging with any information and education around "neurodiversity".

The word has become the new buzzword for many to hijack, not...

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