Reflections

Navigating ND Culture: Parenting Oct 30, 2021

Hello weekend!

This weekend I chat with you about the varying parenting approaches and styles of neurodivergent families.

So grab a cuppa, get comfy, and enjoy!

KF x

Kristy Forbes - inTune Pathways

Stop looking away from intersectionality

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Stop looking away from intersectionality adhd antiracism autism autistic intersectionality lgbtqia+ parenting racism Oct 14, 2021

(Warning: This written content includes discussion around themes of racism, transphobia, homophobia, suicidality.)

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Almost every time I address the topic of intersectionality on my social media, people unlike, unfollow and sometimes, openly, confidently and obnoxiously...

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What happens when you say "No." autism boundaries neurodivergent Oct 07, 2021

Do you know that you can say No?

So many of us don’t.

We’ve been conditioned to understand that No means others will talk behind our backs about our selfishness or coldness.

We know it will often mean others will say things about us and think things about...

Image is a small bird, sitting on a delicate branch against a blurred background of golden brown nature.

I am not my trauma neurodivergent trauma Sep 24, 2021

Yesterday, my youngest child came inside the house to tell me a bird had fallen from it’s nest.

As I neared the back fence, where all the neighbourhood birds gather in all of their breeds, colours, sounds and varieties; I saw it. It was a tiny little thing, making it’s way...

Failed relationships & neurodivergence autism boundaries commuincation dating friendship masking neurodivergent socialising trauma Sep 11, 2021

Ahh, the wonderful weekend. I hope you're having a brilliant one so far.

This week, for something different, the team and I decided we'd share a conversation with community from my Facebook page this past week.

We touched on the challenging and raw topic of failed relationships and...

It flows through my bloodlines Aug 25, 2021

We are FIXATED on behaviour as a society. We hastily attach meaning and intention to it, and project our own biased (mis)understandings onto it, based on all that lies within US.

For many of us, what ‘lies within’ is the unseen, the unheard and the unknown.

The ...

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I'd rather stab my eye than do this... (spoiler: it's group work) autism behaviours learning styles neurodivergent Aug 13, 2021

I still cringe inside when remembering the moments I heard “Okay everyone, find a partner”, or “So we’re going to get into groups of three”...

No.

Nah, not doin’ it.

I would rather stab myself in the eyeball with a rusty fork than engage in...

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I’ll never ‘overcome’ my PDA neurobiology. behaviours parenting pathalogical demand avoidance pda radical acceptance Aug 13, 2021

I’m often asked how, as a PDAer, I am able to overcome my need for control in parenting my own children with a PDA profile of autism.

I don’t overcome it.

I’ll never ‘overcome’ my neurobiology.

It is central to my being and doing.

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This is Me. autism boundaries communication identity legacy neurodivergent Aug 13, 2021

I no longer paint my nails.

I don't adorn myself with jewellery.

I take my time responding to messages and I seldom answer my phone. I have a message bank.

I say no to social invitations when I mean no.

I cut all of my long, dark hair off after years of...

My Dreaming Life anxiety autism behaviours resilience trauma Aug 13, 2021

*Trigger warning: Trauma nightmares, self-harm, police, psychiatric ward*

My dreaming life.

As I age, it becomes more intense; a beckoning for me to process what feels like insurmountable, unfathomable pain, buried away.

There are many parts to my story...

I remember every single name, every single humiliation. adhd autism identity parenting pda trauma Aug 13, 2021

At fifteen years old, I left school midway through Year Nine and went into the workforce.

I vehemently expressed that I would not return to school and with that, my mother said if I was not returning, I needed to get a job.

I worked in the local bakery, something I was so proud of....

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This is how I live most of my life now. autism pathalogical demand avoidance pda Aug 13, 2021

Today I put aside a few hours to revisit my plan for thriving autistically.

Those drop-offs of the very things that support my wellbeing happen so subtly and quickly as time goes on that I don’t even notice.

I told myself (mentally noted) how much I miss my early morning...

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