
We bring our children home.
Jul 22, 2021
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We bring our children home
From failed systems
That have been enabled not to care
Not to care for our children
For us; when we were the children
We educate our children
And while trying to create a safe space
For their trauma to unravel
Our trauma too, unravels
Our children are...
Where my grief came from.
Jul 15, 2021
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This morning as I was barefoot walking through the garden, connecting with the earth, I felt a deep sadness come over me.
My instinct was to push the sadness away and to think of something else fast in order to distract myself; but as soon as I became conscious of this, I returned to...
School Trauma: Tuning into the language of behaviour.
Jul 08, 2021
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For many of us, when we withdraw our children from school after prolonged challenges within that system, we expect that our children will begin to do better at home.
This isn't always so.
Our children do the best they can, in survival mode.
Survival mode...
Appearances can be (so very) deceiving.
Jul 01, 2021
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I'm a PDA autistic (Pathological demand avoidance).
This means that my social connectedness; my ability to engage with others naturally and to make eye contact gives the impression that I possess a higher level of social "ability" than what is expected of me.
As a PDA autistic,...
How I show up in friendships.
Jun 24, 2021
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Hi!
I'm Kristy, and I'm TERRIBLE at being a friend in the neuronormative sense.

I take months to respond to messages in my inbox, if ever.
Sometimes I say things that come across as blunt, forceful, offensive and/or rude.
I say No (a lot) to outings, catch-ups and people...
An invitation to lead with love.
Jun 17, 2021
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Contrary to popular parenting advice, the time when our children return to the safety of our energy after being in trouble is not the time to lecture.
It is not the time to remind our babies why we were angry or what they did wrong and why they should never do that thing again.
Sensory overload and a social hangover.
Jun 10, 2021
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Sitting here reminiscing about the good ole masking in social situations; days of extreme and intense anxiety for weeks, months leading up to events with other people.
The day would finally arrive and I’d be frozen ALL DAY, unable to get moving.
A last-minute sprint clean...
Food, glorious food!
Jun 04, 2021
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Trigger Warning: Mentions food, eating disorders and sensory aversions.
Please note the below is my personal experience and I am not a qualified medical professional or dietician.
Food. Glorious food.
Let’s talk about it.
In our family, we’ve had a variety of...
Meeting my (now) husband.
May 20, 2021
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In the years of my heavily masked unidentified autistic life, dating was an absolute nightmare.
I hated it.
Relationships caused me so much confusion, pain, self-doubt and anguish.
Flirting. Ugh.
Eye contact, words, body language, no clue.
No freaking...
Reclaiming the word "autistic."
May 13, 2021
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A great beginning point when becoming a friend and ally to the autistic community is to use the term "autistic" rather than ASD.
I see the abbreviation ASD and my skin crawls.
Autism Spectrum Disorder.
Disorder.
"My ASD kiddo" equates to "My autism...
My disability is my most sacred ally.
May 06, 2021
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So much of my anger, resentment and self-loathing as a young person came from the pressure I felt to mask.
Masking is both something I, as an autistic person partake in as a choice at times to get to where I want to be in life (e.g. jumping through hoops to get into courses or job...
When there's not enough processing time.
Apr 29, 2021
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Parenting is tough.
Being autistic and parenting can be challenging when we share the same sensory challenges as our little people and need time and space to be calm.
Today we had a tricky moment and I said with more force behind my voice and energy than usual “I think...