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You have permission to protect your energy. autism neurodivergent selfcare Feb 24, 2021
It's okay to let others squirm a little; to provide them an opportunity to take responsibility for their discomfort.
 
It's okay for us to speak up, to correct pronouns, to share our language preferences and to ask for what we need.
 
I spent so many years of my life never standing...
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The problem with mainstream education: Is there one? Feb 04, 2021
This week, we made the decision to bring home the last of our girls from the mainstream education system.
 
My inner knowing all along was that in order to thrive, she would do best immersed in autistic culture and community; understanding and learning about the foundations of her...
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You might be doing it wrong. autism parenting Feb 04, 2021

Many parents and educators will often witness behaviour from neurodivergent people and find it baffling or confusing because they’re unable to connect it to a particular and recent event.


Being autistic means my processing is on a different timeline.


Often I’ll be reminded of...

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PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance) and villains. autism behaviours masking neurodivergent parenting Dec 28, 2020
Why do so many children with a PDA autistic profile take on the character of a villain, a bad guy or a monster, werewolf, zombie, anything that seems a disapproved of figure?
 
Because we come to understand very quickly that there is something powerful within us that even we cannot...
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Screens, screens, screeeeeens! Dec 18, 2020
The holiday season isn't only difficult for ND families due to get togethers, the pressures of complying with "special" days, sensory bombardment, rejection due to behaviour and unsolicited advice, there's also this..
I'm currently seeing post upon post from well intentioned professionals and...
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Her behaviour was unacceptable. autism neurodivergent parenting Dec 04, 2020

(Shared with permission from my adult daughter.)

 

Cleaning out the shed today, I found a box of things collected since my teens.

I felt such sadness when I found this.

I was 18 when my first baby was born.

I was on my own and lived in public housing, and absolutely loved being a Mum.

In...

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The diversity of resilience. neurodivergent resilience Dec 04, 2020

Ahhh, resilience.

The word "resilience" and "resilient" sit uncomfortably for me.

I've seen it used for belittling, dismissing, gaslighting, invalidating and bullying more than I've seen it used for good.

How do we measure resilience?

I think we do ourselves a huge disservice as a society by being so...

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Autistic children, school and burnout. Dec 04, 2020
Today, Mum (me) has had to tune into one of my little people and exercise my responsibility to hit the skids, so to speak.

My girls love school.

They'd push through absolutely anything to be there.

And whilst that's great, and wasn't our experience with all of our girls, it means that we as parents...
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Autism & Addiction: My Story Dec 04, 2020
CW: Suicidal feelings, addiction.

When you think of a person who is drug and/or alcohol addicted, know that if those layers were peeled away, you might very well discover an autistic person.

Drugs and alcohol were everything to me.

They were a balm for my lost, hopeless soul.

When I started drinking,...
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There is no “Imperfection” in Human Being and Doing Nov 30, 2020

There is no “imperfection” in human being and doing.

We are all just as we are in the name of diversity; we all serve to teach and learn from one another.

In biodiversity, the forest thrives when all of it’s inhabitants coexist in harmony, as nature would have it.

The human notion...

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Those Children were the Canaries in the Coal Mine Nov 27, 2020

..and so many of the world's children gradually, slowly but surely, became disengaged and disconnected; never coming out from their safe spaces, no longer connecting with their families.

Built for a world that valued, embraced and accepted all, they lay in wait for the adults to awaken to their...

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Dealing with my Sensory Sensitivities Nov 25, 2020

"I love you. And I love you. I love you all. It's not anyone's fault that Mummy is upset. It's because I'm autistic, and I've had to touch kiwi fruit and mandarines and the juice has got on my skin and now I'm really upset and my whole brain and body feels really yucky and tense and I can't think...

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