I need to start by saying this isn't the kind of self-compassion post where I tell you to go have a bath and light a candle. Being told to "look after yourself" when you're grossly unsupported can ...

When my children came out of chronic, prolonged stress, I expected things to improve quickly.

They were safe now. The source of stress (school) had been removed and surely, I thought, the hard part w...

I think it's so important for those of us who are able to be honest about our earlier days and our learning, to share it. So I want you to know that if you have caused harm in your parenting due to be...

If you, or your family are really struggling right now over the Easter break, I want to share that this is very common for PDAers.
 

This is when as a PDAer myself, I know that my nervous system is...

I used to fight screens.

I'd set timers. I'd negotiate. I'd try to lure them away with activities, outings, suggestions. "Why don't you come and do something with me?" "You've been on that for hours....

When we’re raising PDA kids, or any kids with school-related trauma, one of the hardest moments can be when they say:

“I want to try school again.”

On the surface, that might sound hopeful. Brave. Promi...

Institutional cynicism does not appear out of nowhere, nor does it simply emerge because individuals working within systems become tired, burnt out, or skeptical over time. Institutional cynicism g...

It is remarkable how often adults express confusion or indignation when children, particularly children labelled pathologically demand avoidant or oppositionally defiant (note - those who resist and/o...

PDAers often struggle with being perceived.

By that I don’t simply mean being seen. I mean the experience of someone observing, interpreting, forming conclusions, or assuming meaning about what we’re...

We spend so much time demonising the creative, magical ways in which the human brain (and consciousness) preserves a person’s sanity. Not only do we overlook this, we  actually disrespect it.

I am a ...