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Raspberry slurpee on the carpet: How I coregulate as a Mum to PDAers

Uncategorized Feb 19, 2025
 

Two weeks ago, my ten-year-old spilled a raspberry slurpee on my bedroom carpet. 

I was exhausted and snapped. I raised my voice in panic and frustration and immediately regretted it. 

For many of o...

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What is PDA?

What is PDA for me? I can only share my own experience.

When I was interviewed this year by a national newspaper on PDA, I told them I only care about families who are in crisis and having a hard tim...

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Firmer boundaries, comfort zones and PDA

I recently heard a Clinical Psychologist recommend parents of PDAers do the following:

- Have firmer boundaries

- Use declarative language ("It's important we shower for healthy skin" to have child ...

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When Productivity Meets Burnout: The Importance of Slowing Down

This year saw my beginnings in trauma therapy. While there are many definitions of what trauma therapy is, and varied approaches, I’m clear on one thing: this has been the most significant and most pa...

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Am I more than neurodivergent?

In order to identify as neurodivergent, I have first had to understand what I diverge from.

Most people hear the term neurodivergent and hear that I am diverging from ‘typical’.

Typical neurobiology.

But...

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Are your PDA children short and sharp with you in front of others at times?

Uncategorized Apr 07, 2024

This can actually be culturally and socially appropriate.

We accept that teens do this as part of their identity formation and separation from us into their transition toward a sense of self in adole...

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I never want to forget.

This is an image of me, deep in the trenches, around a decade ago.

My husband would message from work each day and ask how 'things' were.

Some days, I couldn't speak. I'd send pictures. This was one...

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Our child is struggling with demand avoidance and cannot complete simple, familiar tasks.

 

I've been reflecting on a powerful concept we discussed in our recent Q&A from inTune with PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance).

The art of living in the now, especially when supporting our children. ...

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I will not wait until I’m in my last days.

So many people unconsciously spend (waste) their lives working toward what they hope will be peace, one day.

Work hard, then rest.

Main meal first, then dessert.

Wees first, then poos. (I made that...

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It never gets easier

It never gets easier, nor am I ever better prepared for the moments my autistic children (and I) are exposed to another parent’s grief stricken story about their autistic child.

I was conditioned to ...

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