"I wonder when *insert public figure or professional who works in the autism field* will work out that they're autistic" is a sentence often typed and spoken inside of the autistic community.

We know our kin.

We often know before you do.

Autistic people, neurodivergent people have an energy about...

Why do those of us with a PDA autistic profile antagonise others?

To restore balance.

When our threat response is activated and perceives a compromise to our autonomy, the resulting expression or behaviour will LOOK LIKE a grasping for control elsewhere.

PDA is pervasive. It is mostly beyond our...

Ahhh being autistic PDA and in business, hey.

It's bloody hard work.

I'm not talking about the challenges that come with being autistic, ADHD and PDA and running a business either.

I'm talking about the weird concept of me being my brand.

My PDA expression involves a serious intrinsic, inherent,...

Before the youngest two of our four girls were old enough to go to school, my husband and I had a system.

It took us years to work out.

After many tears, sweat, rage, calling each other an arsehole at 2am.

We're autistic amongst other neurodivergences and we had no clue back then.

Most of our days...

TW: Toileting and autism (All pieces that I write on autistic people also apply to autistic adults, however I will often use the term "autistic children" based on the number of families here seeking information and support).
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When our autistic children appear as though they have formed "habits"...

Every single time a person responds to the concept of positive autistic identity with comments such as:

"That's all well and good, but how about the autistic children who are *insert various behaviours and expressions along with communicative differences that society would slap on the label of...

Can we talk about theory of mind?

Theory of mind is the ability to attribute mental states such as beliefs, intents, desires, emotions and knowledge, among others, to oneself and to others. Theory of mind is necessary to understand that others have beliefs, desires, intentions, and perspectives...

When our children make promises and don't keep them, it's because they can't.

Often they'll really mean it when they say it, they'll really try, they'll really want to keep that promise.

But they can't.

Rather than punishing them or becoming angry, it's interesting to see what comes of giggling with...

A few weeks back, I wrote a post on how I'd tried a couple of options for ADHD meds and they hadn't worked out.

I found myself sleeping on the couch with zero motivation and personality along with a shut down of my impulsivity.

I hated it.

I couldn't connect with my "centre" and couldn't find...

Dear families,

If your child has been identified as autistic, I want you to know that they do not instantly require a plethora of therapies.

Our children may not even require any therapies at all.

Autism is a neurobiological divergence.

We are on our own timeline of development.

Those horror stories...

The beauty of being a PDAer and not adhering to or aligning with social hierarchies allows me to see people and situations for exactly what they are.

One year, on the first day of school, one of our girls came home excited. She said she'd had a wonderful day and couldn't wait to go back.

She was in...

So many of us believe we’re not worthy of forgiveness.

We struggle to forgive ourselves for the mistakes we’ve made with our children;

The moments we lost control,

The awful things we blurted out.

My eldest was born when I was 18.

I was an 18 year old troubled, homeless teen with a history...