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How I show up in friendships. autism behaviours friendship neurodivergent Jun 24, 2021
Hi! 👋 I'm Kristy, and I'm TERRIBLE at being a friend in the neuronormative sense.
 
I take months to respond to messages in my inbox, if ever.
 
Sometimes I say things that come across as blunt, forceful, offensive and/or rude.
I say No (a lot) to outings, catch-ups and people...
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An invitation to lead with love. autism neurodivergent parenting Jun 17, 2021
Contrary to popular parenting advice, the time when our children return to the safety of our energy after being in trouble is not the time to lecture.
 
It is not the time to remind our babies why we were angry or what they did wrong and why they should never do that thing again.
 
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Sensory overload and a social hangover. autism behaviours neurodivergent socialising Jun 10, 2021
Sitting here reminiscing about the good ole masking in social situations; days of extreme and intense anxiety for weeks, months leading up to events with other people.
 
The day would finally arrive and I’d be frozen ALL DAY, unable to get moving.
 
A last-minute sprint clean...
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Meeting my (now) husband. autism dating neurodivergent May 20, 2021
In the years of my heavily masked unidentified autistic life, dating was an absolute nightmare.
 
I hated it.
 
Relationships caused me so much confusion, pain, self-doubt and anguish.
 
Flirting. Ugh.
 
Eye contact, words, body language, no clue.
 
No freaking...
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Reclaiming the word "autistic." autism language neurodivergent radical acceptance May 13, 2021
A great beginning point when becoming a friend and ally to the autistic community is to use the term "autistic" rather than ASD.
 
I see the abbreviation ASD and my skin crawls.
 
Autism Spectrum Disorder.
 
Disorder.
 
"My ASD kiddo" equates to "My autism...
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When there's not enough processing time. autism neurodivergent parenting Apr 29, 2021
Parenting is tough.
 
Being autistic and parenting can be challenging when we share the same sensory challenges as our little people and need time and space to be calm.
 
Today we had a tricky moment and I said with more force behind my voice and energy than usual “I think...
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I'm not looking at you. autism behaviours commuincation neurodivergent Apr 22, 2021
I can’t tell you how concerning it is that we have such an incredibly uninformed requirement for autistic people to make eye contact.
 
When we understand autism as an identity and culture, we are able to reframe the way we understand eye contact and perhaps stop placing such...
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Hello there, passive-aggression. autism behaviours commuincation neurodivergent Apr 15, 2021
This morning whilst packing up from a weekend away, one of my children told me I had been passive-aggressive.
 
It was a  shock.
 
I had said “I’m sensing annoyance in your tone” and that was their response: “Yeah because you were being...
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This is a difficult time. Let's acknowledge that. autism boundaries neurodivergent radical acceptance Apr 08, 2021
Immerse yourself in communities, places and with people who feel right for you.
 
A group or page isn't necessarily safe or right because someone else says so.
You get to choose.
 
Last night I jumped on to have a look around at what some of my neurokin were writing and sharing,...
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Awareness month? Nah, not over here. autism language neurodivergent parenting radical acceptance resilience Apr 01, 2021
This morning I'm reminded of an appointment with an obstetrician in the public system seven years ago.
 
I was heavily pregnant with my last baby.
 
He was going over my subsequent pregnancies and deliveries and stopped upon something in the notes that was apparently worth dropping...
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Let's discuss: "Living with autism." autism language neurodivergent radical acceptance Mar 18, 2021
I'd like to encourage individuals, professionals seeking out education to be better allies, and families of neurodivergent individuals to be cautious when engaging with any information and education around "neurodiversity".
 
The word has become the new buzzword for many to hijack, not...
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What I've learned as a PDAer... commuincation neurodivergent pda Mar 11, 2021
If you've seen any of my instastories over at instagram.com/_kristyforbes; if you're in our inTune Access Support: Family Collective membership then you'll be quite accustomed to seeing me in my pyjamas with my hair all over the place.
 
Some of my best work is done in my pyjamas,...
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